Sep 21
So Sunday was my birthday, and following the established trend, I changed my status on facebook at the end of the day to thanking everyone for being so gosh darn nice. (Because what isn’t nice about going back to your computer and seeing over a hundred people taking a couple seconds out of their day to wish you a good one.) However, I wanted to put something else in the status and the phrase “I get by with a little help from my friends” popped in my head. First of all it is a wonderful quote from a wonderful Beatles song. Second of all the the video above is of Joe Cocker’s STUNNING cover of the song at Woodstock that I have always admired (epic.) Third of all, it prompted me to think about friends. Why do we have friends? Why do we need friends? Why do people sometimes not appreciate their friends? What makes people fit to be friends? What makes a friendship last?
Personally, I put a lot of effort and care into my friendships. I honestly care so much. I love giving. As annoying as that sounds, its true. I really want to see the people I love be happy. I love to make them laugh. I love to hold them when their crying or help them finish an English assignment that they just don’t know how to start. I need my friends. I need them to be there for me and remind me about the good in my life when things seem to be taking a turn for the worst. I need them to cuddle with. I need them to teach me whatever they can and hold real conversations. I need them to understand. So basically what I’m getting at is that friendship is really a give and take. We all should really be getting by with a little help from our friends. This makes it hard though when there isn’t as much of a give and take. And, you just feel like you’re giving and giving and caring and caring - without getting much back. You know you should probably stop, but you care about this person so much that you can’t. Here is what I want to say to anyone who ends up reading this. It’s okay. It’s okay to care and give without reciprocation, but make sure it is not causing you true sadness or pain. You can’t let the bad times consistently overcome the good times. If they are, then you know you’re not in a good place. It’s not always noble being the bleeding heart. So here’s to trying to uphold healthy and long lasting friendships! To caring and being cared for! To loving. I know I am lucky enough to have many best friends who really try to stand by my side and appreciate me - friends who I would give anything for. (A couple shout outs to Katharine, Natalie, Megan, Maggie, Jake etc.) But no matter what, I know I will always have my best friend who is practically sister to me, Molly. We have known each other since birth, and no matter what seems to happen in our lives, we can’t be broken up. We’re made for each other and I love her so much.I’ll definitely be posting a photo of me and her soon :)
Anyway, watch the video above and remember to look around and take stock of the people you have in your life. Friends can really make all the difference.
I’m going to end this long post with a quote I found while researching Sophocles for my Theare IV class:
“He who throws away a friend is as bad as he who throws away his life.”
- Sophocles
Think about it.
Be grateful for the good.
xx
